Interactive Exercises from
The Mentalization Workbook
How to Understand Yourself and Others When Your Thoughts and Emotions Get In Your Way
by Anthony Bateman and Peter Fonagy — Guided reflection with AI facilitator
Mentalizing: What Is It and Are You Good at It?
Have you ever been in an argument where you were absolutely certain you were right? Bateman and Fonagy describe three ineffective mentalizing modes: Certainty Trap Mind, Must Be Mind, and Fantasy Filter Mind. These exercises will help you recognize and reflect on these patterns in yourself.
Exercise · Page 15 · Reflection
Reflecting on My Certainty Trap Mind
An AI facilitator guides you through 4 reflection questions about a recent argument, helping you explore what you thought, felt, and missed in the moment.
Exercise · Page 20 · Scale
Recognizing My Own Certainty Trap Mind
Rate 13 statements about emotions and relationships to discover your personal Certainty Trap pattern—then explore what it means with an AI facilitator.
Exercise · Page 23 · Reflection
Reflecting On My Must Be Mind
Explore how you judge your own and others' minds by external actions rather than understanding internal mental states. An AI facilitator guides you through 5 reflection questions.
Exercise · Page 24 · Scale
Recognizing My Own Must Be Mind
Rate 9 statements about how you understand minds through actions. Discover if you're overusing Must Be Mind—then explore what it means with an AI facilitator.
Exercise · Page 28 · Scale
Recognizing My Own Fantasy Filter Mind
Rate 11 statements about overanalyzing and disconnection from feelings. Discover if you're using Fantasy Filter Mind—then reflect on all three ineffective mentalizing modes.
Based on The Mentalization Workbook: How to Understand Yourself and Others When Your Thoughts and Emotions Get In Your Way by Anthony Bateman and Peter Fonagy
This is a reflection tool, not a replacement for therapy. If you're experiencing mental health concerns, please consult a qualified professional.